If you’re heading for a first date, chances are you’re a bit nervous. Take a deep breath. Being informed and planning ahead are the masculine man’s best defenses against first date jitters.
Have a Game Plan
It’s important to decide where to go and what to eat. As a masculine man (and the one who asked her out) you’ll want to do the planning. You don’t necessarily want to call all the shots on the date, but you do want to know her preferences. It’s a good idea to ask her if she had something in mind. Be flexible, have a few options available and go over them with her in advance, so she feels like she had a say. Most women will admit that they want to be swept off their feet on a first date and that means that they want to enjoy the man’s company without having to make the major decisions.
Consider any common interests and plan an activity that you would both enjoy. You can begin by checking the arts/culture section of your local news sites or local papers for great date ideas. Remember that if a location or activity is boring, the burden falls on you to entertain her and keep the conversation going. If neither of you are into art, chances are that ceramic exhibit at the gallery downtown will have you both bored to tears.
Women love dates that are just a little unexpected – but not too bizarre or out of her (or your) comfort zone. If monkeys make you nervous, don’t go to the zoo, even if you know she loves animals. Don’t go sailing if you can’t swim. And try to avoid high risk activities like zip-lining across the Grand Canyon unless you and your date are both into action sports. You want to come off as fun and exciting, but don’t fake compatibility by trying to be someone you’re not.
Since conversation is such a huge part of the date, stay away from a movie or concert, unless that’s only 50% of the date. You want the chance to talk to her and you won’t be able to talk through the movie or scream over heart pounding music!
Choosing the Perfect Restaurant: It’s Not the Money, It’s the Experience
Choosing the right setting for your game is like walking a tightrope. It’s a balancing act, tipping too far in one direction can be disastrous. You might think that you should go with something super fancy – wrong! Super fancy will freak her out. It will seem like you are trying too hard to impress her, have an ulterior motive, or compensating for some obvious flaw in your personality. Avoid those places with over-attentive waiters and ultra expensive entrees – unless you have an undeniably excellent reason for it. When picking the right restaurant – it’s not about the money, it’s about the experience. She’s dating you, not the restaurant.
On the other hand, too casual isnlt ideal, either. You’ll look like a cheapskate. Or even worse, that you just didn’t care enough about the date to make an effort. You’ll also want to avoid chain restaurants by selecting something with some personality. Every town has a hip and trendy place that comes alive at night without your breaking the bank. It’s also a great idea to pick a restaurant that you are familiar wth, so you’ll feel more comfortable and in control. If you decide to try a new place, be sure to check out their reviews before you make the reservation, but don’t get too adventurous by using your first visit as the chance to try a completely unknown cuisine. You don’t want to find out on a first date that your stomach didn’t agree with you.
Pay attention to the ambiance – avoid noisy restaurants or bars. If you aren’t sure about the noise level of a place, read reviews online. One of the most common things that people mention in reviews is that the noisy level got in the way of an intimate evening. You don’t want to scream over a crowd just to talk to your date.
You can also look for a restaurant/bar combo, where you can have a drink and break the ice while you are waiting for your table. Or go for a quiet dinner and then hit another trendy nightspot for drinks. Whatever option you choose, make sure she knows in advance so she can dress properly. You want her to look good don’t you? She’ll be mortified if she’s dressed to the nines and you take her to a place where corndogs are considered a delicacy. Nothing mortify classy ladies more than dressing for the wrong occasion.
Well, actually, there is – and that brings us to how you prep yourself for the date.
First Impressions Count: Dress to Impress
It’s beyond embarrassing for your date, if she looks terrific and you look like you just rolled out of bed. Believe me, we know when a guy has put good effort into his appearance. A good outfit for a first date should be clean, without damage, wrinkle-free, comfortable and properly fitted, with matching dark color socks. Invest in a full-length mirror and check yourself out head to toe. If you wearing something newly purchased, be sure to check for tags. You don’t want to go on a date with your pants size stuck to your leg.
And Gentlemen – but don’t forget about body odor. “Stench No.5” will have us running for the door. Take a shower and wash your hair, and if you don’t have time, at least change out that sweaty shirt and underwear. If you are just coming straight from work, use clean wipes in packets (even restaurant packets will do), or baby wipes to give your armpits a quick wipe. Don’t douse yourself in cologne – you’re not a mobile perfumery. Remember to check your shoes and nails – both should be clean. The finishing touches tell the most about a person, because so many people underestimate their importance.
Finally, it’s time ot pay attention to your manly face – well in advance of your first date. You should already be on a men’s face care schedule, but this is especially true on the day of your date.
Your goal is for your face to look clean, fresh, and inviting. You want to tempt her to wonder what your skin feels like if she presses her cheek to yours. And if you are hoping for a goodnight kiss, a stubbly tired-looking face is bound to be a road block.
If you’re a guy who never washes his face, or thinks he can get away with splashing water on his mug, think again. Plain water or soap (don’t even think about it) steals your skin of vital moisture. It clogs your pores and doesn’t clean away the dead skin cells and environmental debris that the masculine man accumulates on his face every day.
The best way for your skin to retain collagen and elasticity (key factors in retaining a youthful appearance) is to put your face on the proper maintenance schedule. The first step is to wash your mug with a high quality anti-aging cleaner that’s powerful enough to get rid of the junk on his face, but mild enough so that his skin isn’t stripped of moisture. Drug store cleansers and body-washes are packed with additives, lack anti-aging ingredients, and don’t do much for your face, even if they’re cheap.
Step two is a treatment for your face to help fight fine lines and wrinkles. The daily shave and exposure to the elements can lead to skin damage and premature aging. You can reverse the damage with a treatment that harnesses the power of science and nature to save your masculine hide. If cleaning your face is the “workout”, the treatment step like a post-workout protein shake for your face. It will help your skin bounce back and feel better than ever.
Finally, make sure that you apply a masculine face protectant to complete the regimen. The protectant seals in moisture so your skin looks clean and fresh all day long. Much like the treatment, a high quality anti-aging protectant it’s essentially a force field that helps keep the bad stuff out – like skin-damaging free radicals and grime, but keep the good stuff (like moisture) in, and helps boost the collagen and elasticity of your skin. High quality protectants made with essential oils and nutrients will prevent your skin from looking parched and flaky – a definite turn off for the big first date!
Once your face is looking good, it’s back to preparing for the first date.
See the conclusion to this article in: Masculine Men’s Face Care And Anti-Aging Series – How To Ace That First Date (Part 2 of a 2 Part Series)